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Say “Hello” to Your Virus

June 20, 2011

Say “Hello” to Your Virus

I was watching CNN while working out and the topic under discussion was a HIV and all the advances that have been made in the last thirty years.  Today, many people with HIV can live fairly normal lives.  A young man on the program was being interviewed.. He has had AIDS for eight years.  He is otherwise healthy but for most of this time has lived with the anxiety of having this virus and resenting that there is little or nothing he can do about it.  It is a fact of his life.  Recently a girlfriend confronted him about his anxiety and resentment.  She asked him, “Have you ever said ‘hello’ to the virus living inside you?”

That simple question changed his perspective about his condition.  It is largely out of his control.  He can continue being angry about it or he can accept it, embrace it, and move on.

How many of us are living with a condition in our life we cannot control?  It may be a disease, physical condition, or other malady that we have or someone close to us does.  We can allow it to debilitate us psychology and in other ways or we can say “hello” to it.  The same holds true for other undesirable facts in our life beyond our control or personal demons that plague us.  Saying ‘hello’ to them can put us in a healthy frame of mind which can help us overcome or adjust for them.  It may be something in our past or present that we cannot shake loose, but when we allow it to drag us down, rather than inspire us to take our lives to a higher level or better future, we intentionally or inadvertently allow it to hurt us further.  It is far better to focus on possibilities rather than limitations.

Is something in your life . . . a fact of your life . . . holding you back or debilitating you in some manner? If so, say “hello” to it – make it your friend – and use it to propel you to a better place.

Steve Weitzenkorn

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2 Comments leave one →
  1. June 21, 2011 9:24 am

    It’s called “radical acceptance” and is a technique taught in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy: recognize–AND ACCEPT–what you can’t change. It doesn’t mean roll over and play dead; it simply means don’t waste energy worrying about things that are beyond your control. Channel that energy instead into things you CAN control.

    And they can be things that help you deal with the problem. As you say, it changes your perspective, and helps you deal with it.

    • June 21, 2011 11:20 am


      Thanks for sharing this information and your insights.


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